So, you are simple creatures, you say...and for the most part I tend to agree. Men are, I find for the most part, pretty straightforward and uncomplicated (women often scare me).
But then come the ones who aren't. The one who pursued me for several weeks, chatted constantly, we met and he said he'd definitely love to meet again: and then disappeared off the face of the earth. The one who chatted forever, says he's still interested, but won't commit to meeting again. The one who met regularly forever, then suddenly isn't sure.
IS IT ME??? Is it just that I tend to be attracted most to the ones who aren't "available" for me? Am I so ugly and scary that no one wants to meet with me again??? I am getting a complex here.
For the longest time, everything seemed to be going well. I chatted, I met, I had a great time. Then this slippery slope of self doubt crept in.
I wonder if I am asking for too much? An experience last spring made me reconsider what I'm looking for and what I want to get from here. I want friends to have fun with. I don't want to meet once with someone who just said hi this afternoon.
Am I just finding the wrong ones?
IS there something wrong with me??? I've chatted with SO MANY great guys on here, why is it that the ones that make me want more just have no problem dropping me like a worn out sock?
Damn, I don't want to focus on negativity here, but that's where I'm at.
10:19 pm Saturday, 24th August, 2013
Right. Answering the questions in the order posed to the best of my (limited) ability:
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10:35 am Sunday, 25th August, 2013
guess i'm one of them guys that all talk,no pants , always found the translation from fantasy to reality difficult to bridge. being adversely shy don't help lol , keep on living the dream |
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11:20 am Sunday, 25th August, 2013
Naturally, of course, I am the perfect man (lol). Seriously, though, I would say that my approach to this game is more cerebral than physical - at least in the initial stages. Also I have the patience of Job combined with an ultra-cautious mentality. I need to assure myself that whoever I'm in contact with is on my wavelength in terms of expectations, neediness, and intelligence. Therefore I tend to supply a lot of information and I expect the same in return. I never make promises and I don't have undue expectations: I prefer a mutual framework to take shape, and if at some stage my correspondent spots some area of incompatibility and backs off, then I respect that. Likewise with me. It's better if these things become apparent before meeting, because if they emerge *after* the deed is done, then it leaves a bad taste in the mouth. |
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4:31 am Monday, 26th August, 2013
Skebbie middle-age men going through some sort of mental crisis should therefore be avoided. The trick is to detect them before it becomes too late. If only there was some kind of test. |
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9:45 am Monday, 26th August, 2013
Thanks all....I so appreciate hearing all these comments. |
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10:27 am Monday, 26th August, 2013
Aphrodite. That was clearly a " cris de coeur " and I was sorry to read that you feel so sad about things. |
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10:42 am Monday, 26th August, 2013
EG, I don’t find men confusing. I’m not sure they are complicated enough to be confusing; simple creatures really.
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11:40 am Monday, 26th August, 2013
Luv2: Well contrary to popular belief, this particular man positively savours the use of langauge. In fact so much so that by the time I'm put my point across, my female correspondent has either fallen asleep or run off with Tarzan :-) |
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8:10 pm Thursday, 29th August, 2013
FA, "I'm not sure it has much practical application other than in i) getting a girl and ii) leaving her before she leaves you ... " |
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11:25 pm Thursday, 29th August, 2013
joanne: You'd be surprised just how long my explanations can sometimes take :-) |
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6:05 pm Saturday, 31st August, 2013
Eroticgoddess it works both ways. I have met a few very nice ladies off here and had a great time with the promise of more meets to come a couple of them stayed with me for a week and it was amazing. Even afterwards there were texts and e-mails and talk of love etc which at the time made me feel very special indeed especially with my break up etc. Then poof everything stopped no more messages or e-mails and removed from friends list etc etc. Very odd tbh. |
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10:49 pm Wednesday, 30th October, 2013
It makes it harder for us genuine men. I guess that's why I don't get much contact. I'm still to have a meet up yet. All I want is just a message to say no sorry your not what I'mwere looking for. I think I will have to write to Santa to get a real ladycouple to talk too. |
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12:06 pm Thursday, 31st October, 2013
Girldownunder but I add my details to contact me in myessages.
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12:28 pm Thursday, 31st October, 2013
Not looking for a "happily ever after" thing. Just someone normal and decent, who doesn't disappear at the drop of a hat. |
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1:15 pm Thursday, 31st October, 2013
At the risk of getting bashed, lol.. |
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7:47 pm Thursday, 31st October, 2013
That all depends |
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9:57 am Friday, 1st November, 2013
one of the best thought provoking poems ever:- |