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Why look for friends?

10:10 am Saturday, 27th July, 2013

Let's face it, I am on odd duck on here. I've had a lot of questions from the guys since I updated my profile a few weeks ago. I cleared out all the ramblings of the previous version and put up a new one: I am looking for friends.

Why?

A myriad of reasons, each as personal to me as the next.

--I find sex with a random unknown person I will probably never see or hear from again to be cold, empty, and unfulfilling.
--I like flirting with and talking to men. Whether or not it eventually leads to sex is not the point. Getting to know someone intimately is just plain fun.
--When I have sex with a friend, it's easier to say and ask for what I really want. Enjoyment increases with my comfort level. I think that's mutual.
--I feel my sexuality is honored, not debased. This is just me, but when I've been with someone I don't know well, I often come away wondering what he thought of me, performance was a big issue, and my insecurities reign. With friends, I can talk to them and get over it.

I must say, as my time on the Hub has flown by, I've become much more selective as to who I consider a friend, and simply being friends does not imply I have sex with them. In fact, that well is running quite dry at the moment, but I'm gathering my friends around me.

Here's to getting to know people better!



Comments
10:57 am Saturday, 27th July, 2013

Congratulations. You've just discovered the way my own philosophy has evolved over the course of a decade using "adult dating" sites. I eventually realized that there had to be a meeting of minds in order to find the sex fulfilling, and also I narrowed down my physical criteria so I could think "You know.....she was classy. You did alright there mate :-)

These days it's essential for me to chat and swap info via e-mail to ensure any prospective partner is on the same wavelength. I'm very fussy but to be honest I'd rather not meet for sex with someone at all unless I felt the experience was going to be memorable. That may mean weeks or even months without, but once I've established a good connection, and the other person feels the same about it, continuing to have dates when mutual schedules allow is a wonderful thing between trusted and valued companions.

12:27 pm Saturday, 27th July, 2013

@Eroticgoddess ... Makes sense to me

@Skebbie ... you are a keeper

Great blog
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12:42 pm Saturday, 27th July, 2013

"Enjoy your friends, and everyone who thinks a shag is just one dancing willy away can piss right off!"

@Kinky, well said ... Go girl!

12:43 pm Saturday, 27th July, 2013

Are the site admin just picking on me today? ********

6:41 am Wednesday, 31st July, 2013

I like people, love to flirt and make friends but, in spite of what it says on my profile, it can be difficult to manage when guys pick up the wrong signal.




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