Hello there,I was looking through the profiles and yours caught my eye so I thought that I would send you mine....
"Why is this person any different"
I chose this as my "tag line" as I thought that was
what anyone looking at any profile is initially
thinking.
if your like me then your thinking why would I
want to
get acquainted with this person?
well there are many things that I look for in a
potential partner which I describe elsewhere in
this
profile but for now I'm thinking about you.
I suppose the first and foremost things a woman is
looking for in this lifestyle are
1]Has this person got a dark side as in the kind of
gross things we sometimes read about in the
newspapers.is he violent a con man etc
2]Is he clean ,STD's also other transmittable
diseases.
3]Does he cheat on his lady.
4]What kind of experience does he have in this
lifestyle.
and so on..
well maybe your not that paranoid,or maybe you
should be,lets face it those kind of people are out there
but
thankfully only in a small minority.
my best advice if you are that worried about
meeting
someone is to go to a munchparty in your area
because
at least you can assess a potential mate by what
others say about him.
So back to why am I any different.
well you can't really know that I am or for that
matter if anyone is as this is the net and I
guess
you would just have to get to know me.
I have lived at the same address for the last 9
years
and have had the same job for the last 13 years so I'm
very
stable in my life.
I have various interests and hobbies and I am here
to
meet both friends and a sexualromantic partner.
I have had an interest in the ds lifestyle all of
my
life but it was one of those things that was in
the
background and didn't get acted on until about 4
years
ago.
I was at that time very shy about my kinky side
and I
suppose that was the result of societies training
of
looking at it as weird and definitely something to
be
ashamed or embarrassed about.
I have gradually changed from that person to
someone
who is comfortable talking to most people I know
about
being a kinkster.
I consider myself to be more of a Dominant in the present.
THE PAST.
I first started looking around the net as I said
about
4 years ago and came across a site run by a famous
Sydney bdsm brothel the lady who runs it had
written
several articles about the lifestyle and whilst
reading the articles she completely changed my
mind about it so I went from someone who was never
going to
actualise my fantasies to someone who felt
understood
and accepted.
so to cut a long story short I went in to see
her,and
she graciously gave me about an hour of her time
discussing the various ds issues and I left
feeling
totally different about things.
so a few weeks later I made an appointment to see
one of the mistresses there and since then I have seen
about 3 or 4 mistresses and attended 2 of their
parties that they hold from time to time.
At that time I had no idea about the private play
party scene and I had an ad running for a while on
a
phone intro service here in Sydney.
then one day I spoke to an experienced player who
took
me along to one of the Sydney parties and we had a
great time.
she recommended me to a dominant there and we
ended up
having a relationship.
I have since had a relationship with another
switch
but I took the dominant roll more often than not
and I
have altogether attended about 6 or 7 private play
parties.
THE PRESENT.
As I said I am putting this profile together now
also
attending parties on a much more regular basis as
recently I have realised after having one foot in and
one foot out of the vanilla world that I really
have
to have a lady who shares my enthusiasm for this
lifestyle.
I now have a great deal of admiration and respect
for
almost everyone that I have met in the ds scene
and
have stopped that niggely feeling that I had that
there is somehow something wrong with what Iwe
are
doing.
what is so good about the regular vanilla world
anyway?
1 out of every 2 marriages end in divorce,I would
like
to bet much of that comes from stale unfullfilling
sex
lives.
the biggest hurdle is jealousy,and I see that many
in
the lifestyle seem to have overcome this very
human
characteristic or at least they seem to have done
so.my guess is that if they have that
understanding
that they genuinely love each other then they can
trust that the other play is a fleeting casual
thing
that doesn't affect their normal relationship
together,so if this works properly they are an
example to the rest of us.
also from a spiritual point of view there is the
idea
that one has to avoid the "pleasures of the flesh"
and that could be why I avoided it for so long.
books that I have read more recently give me the
idea
that we are here on this earth to learn lessons
and
have many different experiences [whilst respecting
others]so I am more inclined to that school of
thought
now and trying to avoid sex dosn't fix the innate desire anyway and in the extreeme finds it's way out in some people in the non-consentual paedophilia with certain people in some religions and other places so this is what denial can cause in some.so that's obviously not healthy.
the other areas that i am impressed with is that almost everyone in the community
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| Gender | Male | |
| Age | 64 | |
| Sexuality | Straight | |
| Location | Australia, New South Wales, Sydney | |
| Ethnicity | White / Caucasian | |
| Height | 6ft 2in (188 cm) | |
| Build | Average | |
| Hair | Blonde | |
| Body hair | Natural | |
| Drink | Never | |
| Smoke | No | |
| Drugs | None | |
| Cock/Breast size | Large | |
| Travel | Can accommodate | |
| Safe sex | Always | |
