my life seems ruinined my gf found out i am a cross dresser and has humiliated me infront of all my friends :(

RE:my life seems ruinined my gf found out i am a cross dresser and has humiliated me infront of all my friends :(

Sometimes something positive can result from negative situations. You could always ditch the uptight gf and find someone more sympathetic with whom you can have some fun.

People who like or love you (friends and family) are hardly going to be too bothered about your dressing. They'll all have something they'd prefer the world didn't know about so I'd say chill out about it and make a joke of it if anyone tries to needle you and don't react negatively.

Good luck!

RE:my life seems ruinined my gf found out i am a cross dresser and has humiliated me infront of all my friends :(

Dearest,

You are what you are, you will not change it, do not be put down. The people who love and care for you still will, regardless. So, you like to wear a dress, so what, it don't change your personality, just another aspect. Ditch the girl, forget her, you can and will find solace with a caring person. I was married for years and my partner never accepted me and I repressed my CD, single now, it hurts, don't make the same mistake. Be yourself. Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. Smile now, you will get through this. Your life is not ruined, you now have found your path, take, be yourself. It is never as bad as it seems, the only fear is fear.

RE:my life seems ruinined my gf found out i am a cross dresser and has humiliated me infront of all my friends :(

Maybe you have moved on from her, but if you haven't there's no harm in talking to her about how you feel about dressing up and what it means to you. And tell her that it doesn't change how you feel about her either. At this point it couldn't hurt. If you want to dress and try to stop for her, chances are it's only gonna come back again. You'll be dressing behind her back again.

Maybe she can't get past that, but at least you will have been honest with her. That's all you can do. Another thing you can do to set her mind at ease it to do something nice for her ifas she accepts you as you truly are. Remind her that you see her as that beautiful woman you love.

Maybe you've already taken these steps together or you've moved on. Either way, I hope you can be happy.

hey

I got caught my my ex-girlfriend.. I was up late and she was in bed.. she had left her bikini on the radiator.. so, I felt a little rude and put it on.. she got up for a drink and bam! totally caught me.. thankfully, she joined in.. I know I can trust her but wouldn't worry anyway.. if my mates found out sure they'd laugh but that would be it.. loads more gay jokes but that's fine, my brothers gay and people know I support him whatever his choice is.. I'm starting to go a little that way, getting really turned on by shemale porn... anyway, in the end we split up, not because of the crossdressing totally, although she did get a little annoyed when I stayed over and bought my own nighty lol but it was more to do with her being completely crazy and unsatisfyable. she did encorage me to cross dress at a festival though, so i did.. with all my friends there.. it was great.. after the initial shock everyone laughed it off.. I stayed dressed up all weekend., then dressed up at the same festival the year after.. now it's a tradition lol so people expect me to dress up.. last year I went with my purple skirt, stockings and a little top.. I felt hot as fuck!
end of the day, people accept it. they dont mind.. as long as your not asking them to bum you I'm sure it'll be fine :) hope it all worked out for you.. been a long time since the post. x

RE:my life seems ruinined my gf found out i am a cross dresser and has humiliated me infront of all my friends :(

I take it you are no longer an item. That being the case, good riddance. If she had the gall to out you to family and friends without your agreement then there was nothing there on which to build a life.

As some of the replies indicate, it is part of who you are or you would not have done it. You will be surprised how much acceptance you will get if you are straight up and honest and don't try to skulk in the shadows. I go everywhere I want, when I want and have never had anyone be obnoxious. I have only encountered friendly openness. However, I would caution that you do not dress in a manner which attracts ridicule, that is only asking for negative responses.

All the best and enjoy.

Jeniffer. PreOp MTF Transexual.

RE:my life seems ruinined my gf found out i am a cross dresser and has humiliated me infront of all my friends :(

hey where about are you from?i do feel the same way too and often try my partners undies n sexy clothes way she is away.Its a great turn on for me and I often play in them.coming with a very huge orgasm and then I would was them away and she thinks I was her clothes out of love.
I dont think you are alone.Iam bi curious and have played with a few cocks without her knowledge.
would love to catchup with you and share things and ..
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I went through something similar but it was not as direct.Not sure how long you have been with her but if she was true and loved you she would have not ran and told everyone. Not everyone understands or thinks about how their judgements and shaming can hurt someone. I went through family, coworkers, and so called friends picking at me indirectly  or semi direct. Saying little words and lotta inside jokes but nobody ever confronted me or would talk about it even when I asked them point blank. Family was the worst. Fortunately my best friend and wife of 14 years accepted me as bi, forgave me for cheating, and will joke with me sometimes about being bi and dressing. Find friends that cross dress. I am very bipan. Most people I hang with outside of family now are queer in some way. Lotta lesbian and gay friends that were there for me before I came out are still there. I respect the he'll out of them for being true. People that dont know us laugh at us anyway. You know what fxxck them and go be happy.  It will be ok. You will see who your friends are. If they go away be glad they are gone. Be proud to be you. Your girl may be hurt because she does not understand. I am still learning myself. I just came out this year.

First off, don't worry. People will always think what they want to. Whilst your girlfriend was wrong to take revenge like that its not the end of the world. Those that accept are your real friends and family, those that distance themselves from you were probably not worth knowing anyway. Above all be yourself and be proud of who you are. Many of us get caught, i did on numerous occasions in my youth. If you can be brave and tell people it doesn't come as a shock when they see you in feminine attire and you don't have to hide away and risk being caught out again. Hope everything is working out for you xx