Having been a long-standing member of the adult dating site community. I have seen it go through so many changes.
Unfortunately many of them are rather more negative than positive
Way back when I first started chatting you could often find platforms that were still well within the remit of the well known internet service Providers remit.
Unfortunately this site’s rules will not allow me to mention any of them (even in context) But one of them starts with the letter M and then an S followed by M again. America Oh Ell was another, and of course we all the one called \/ who 00 don't we.
and Then we started to see a gradual increase in the amount of dedicated sites, such as Adult Friend Finder, Local Swingers, as well as quite a few others besides. Initially this was a really good thing in my opinion, and the good times rolled in earnest.
It was very much like going to a dance hall back then, if you didn't want to dance you didn't go! With adult dating sites is was very much the same. If you didn't want to find someone to play with you didn't join.
This was positive thing in that you pretty much knew that whoever was out there was genuinely interested, and it only remained to find the ones you truly shared a common chemistry with, and of course, similar sexual desires.
I might add that this was not always so easy to discover than it sounds!
Sadly, few of these strictly adult community service sites, as I would like to call them, still exist; where the emphasis on catering for the needs of its particular community was intrinsically important. If they do still exist then, they have surely been remodelled out of all recognition in respect of their former selves.
One need only take a brief analysis of this particular site’s developments to know what I am talking about here!
Mark my words when I tell you; today they do not cater for the community they are supposed to serve, far from it. Actually, they don't give a damn about you, or anybody else out there for that matter. How can they? Their purpose today is entirely singular. …..COMMERCE!
Indeed It is perhaps not surprising that by 2007 the dating industry itself became the second highest on-line industry for paid content on the planet.
Would anyone like to hazard a guess as to which one took first place?
So what is it we are all after these days. Have our requirements changed? Are there too many fake and misleading profiles out there? Are we more savvy? Have sites like these been over-run by money makers,? or do we simply accept the motion that throwing good money after bad is a valid reason to continue funding them?
And, again; do you feel that perhaps it is due to the shear volume of marketing, that some of the loneliest of humans both male and female, as well as even the saddest of creatures are often to be seen frequently wandering the halls of our once beloved Ethernet home?
One thing is for certain: The tenacity we human beings display in our attempts to seek each other out is truly inspiring. So much so in fact, that we might use any and all tools available to us out there to achieve such goals. Personally I believe that It is precisely for this one reason that the on-line dating industry has been so successful.
And Finally
If you feel you would like to respond to this blog, than might I ask you to comment on what you think has improved since day one so to speak, and what might you find particularly unsavoury?
What are the three things you would change about the way these sites are run if you were able to?
4:15 pm Saturday, 22nd October, 2016
Im not sure if everything I wrote in this blog has been allowed by the site. It seems they can be quite paranoid about any phrase, part word or choice of characters that might even remotely resemble a marketing ploy. I do understand that it would be abused if they just let anything through But for God's sake! what about Context Stupid Mother fcukers |
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5:53 am Monday, 24th October, 2016
The people running this site are taking the Mickey... They include thousands of bots ... They don't even do it cleverly as they all use the same wording: |
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2:46 pm Monday, 24th October, 2016
MrCrisp: Oddly I'd been meaning to blog about something similar recently: along the lines of "Adult dating: a 10-year retrospective". I'm really interested in sexual memes, fashions and zeitgeist. At the moment I'm busy but will definitely get back to this...... |
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6:52 pm Monday, 24th October, 2016
ANGELICI :
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10:58 pm Monday, 24th October, 2016
I'm new to the site, having only been here a few months and I think I have been approached by every type of scam I could imagine. All trying to be friendly, asking where you live etc etc and try getting money either to pay for a hotel, or to sign up to another site
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9:23 pm Tuesday, 25th October, 2016
Easily the best blog subject for an age Mr C and I can only echo your sentiments entirely. I come here only out of habit now, as well as to touch base on occasion with folks I already know. Apart from that I am of the view that it has had its day but I live in hope that things might improve. Your blog here is testament to my enduring optimism.
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2:07 am Wednesday, 26th October, 2016
Rigger: Same thing has happened to me too. On some occasions I have accepted the invitation, and on others not (because I suspected that we might have drifted apart mentally from the time we met in "shaggerspace" - especially when you see what's on their mind in the "real" world :-) ). I agree it's a bit disconcerting when these invitations pop up, and I often wonder about the cyber-circuitry involved. |
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7:06 pm Wednesday, 26th October, 2016
Dear Fellow bloggers ...Especially RIGGER - - ANGELICI - TIGGER - PLEASUREDOMDAD - and SKEBBIE but NOT to the detrement of the others who have also commented.
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10:48 am Thursday, 27th October, 2016
Back again.......
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3:06 pm Thursday, 27th October, 2016
My Dear Skebbie,
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4:12 pm Thursday, 27th October, 2016
MrC: The honorific is unnecessary. I'm not a "dom" : simply a straightforward guy who is allergic to bullshit. The fact I have a few rope pics on my profile merely reflects the fact I enjoy a range of interaction. I don't claim to be anything other than I am. But it's always gratifying to find like minds here, and I know there are more out there who would empathize. I just wish they would form a critical mass and add their input here. |
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4:21 pm Thursday, 27th October, 2016
Skebbie,
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10:13 pm Thursday, 27th October, 2016
I've just popped back here to see what's ocurring after a few months off...and something interesting is ar least a start!
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10:16 pm Thursday, 27th October, 2016
And how come the blog comments are now going backwards? That was confusing for a while!! |
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3:01 am Friday, 28th October, 2016
MHW: I agree with a lot of what you say, especially the bit about garbage content rising exponentially with free memberships, and the fact that many people access these sites by smartphone these days. The latter encourages people to communicate in txt speak or to have very limited or poor communication with other members. Smartphone usage has reduced the value of such sites to little more than a cheap fairground peep-show. I'm "old school" in the sense that I like to put some thought into how I present myself, and for that I always use a PC, and I think it shows.
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8:30 am Friday, 28th October, 2016
Interesting observations - and I am quite taken with the chicken and egg-esq nature of comments - is it the site (or sites) or is it the expectations of the clientele (although deep down I would venture that it is a bit of both). I call it my Tesco Pesto Dilemma.
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12:00 pm Friday, 28th October, 2016
"did a chill run down others spines when the word "dating" was used"
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5:14 am Saturday, 29th October, 2016
"there are small splinter groups of determined individuals who have set up their own little networks"
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4:42 pm Saturday, 29th October, 2016
Hello Hunny,
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4:49 pm Saturday, 29th October, 2016
They are up here in the mountains of Riggerland Ms Colt!! |
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5:23 pm Monday, 31st October, 2016
Yer Bastian1977,
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8:55 pm Monday, 31st October, 2016
Hey is anyone up for anything, im bi and am wanting to be gangbangedimg src="imagesadultemoticons013.gif" |
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12:49 am Thursday, 3rd November, 2016
I've been on here for I'd say about two years now. The first year I dipped my toe in the water and had great success., it seems us single ladies are a bit like gold dust. I found quite a lot of couples to unfortunately be very pushy and as a result of this have yet to indulge. I have a kind of penpal |
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1:16 am Thursday, 3rd November, 2016
Couldn't agree more, Tiara. There's a very large body of people out there whose needs are not being met by sites such as this one. Those types of people aren't looking to "hold hands and dream of building a life together", nor do they want to be "dominated, gimped, degraded, gang-banged or whipped". All they want is some sexual freedom and friendship with sane and intelliegent non-exclusive partners. If I had some nettech savvy (and sufficient time) I'd try to set up a site of my own, and it would be fun excluding all of the above. It would be a site where everyone has to pay at least something to discourage fakes and attract only those who are serious. In other words cultivate a bit of quality and class. |
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3:39 pm Saturday, 5th November, 2016
Correct, no one wants to see it. But as I consider my shots tasteful and some quite arty not all would agree., naked men shots are not appealing to me either, well maybe one #dixon. |
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6:24 pm Saturday, 5th November, 2016
HI TIARA,
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9:43 pm Saturday, 5th November, 2016
Tricky getting the photos right. I could not decide on whether to use a New Holland or John Deere on one or two of mine. I settled for the latter because I think green suits my complexion better than the blue. |
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12:16 am Sunday, 6th November, 2016
LOL (as they say) @ Rigger :-) |
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12:48 am Sunday, 6th November, 2016
Well to say they were taken with an iPhone 5 and purely for my benefit and no one else's I'm happy enough with them. There must be 40 private shots that have never seen the light of day. But Skebbie has seen them warts and all, and one day I'm sure he will be my photographer as I trust him 100%. The ones up now are for fun I wasn't aware it was a competition. LOL so to speak, |
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11:27 am Sunday, 6th November, 2016
A few photos now change. From my private collection. For a limited time. It's all in the lighting. So to speak. Tongue in cheek. |