On Filipino Men And Their Mistresses

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Here is an electronic message I copypasted from a friend, translations included. It is a perspective on Filipino men and their tendency to look for mistresses. Interestingly enough, it may explains why the allure of having mistresses tends to significantly decrease for men in open relationships:

Why do men need mistresses?

I asked that question in the Rotary Club. A Canadian man said, “You know why we do it? We do it ‘cause we can get away with it.” It’s the forbidden fruit. The allure of mistresses in the shadows, that’s her mystery.

A man I know also said, “It’s nice to wake up with a beautiful face beside me.”

At one point in a woman’s life she has to choose whether she wants to keep her face or her figure. When a woman is thin her face is compromised, it’s sunken. But if she wants a younger-looking face with no wrinkles that means she has to choose to be fat. 'Mahirap maging babae.' (It’s hard to be a woman).

So it is normal to have a mistress?

Yes. Even taxi drivers have mistresses. She might have a 'carinderia' (eatery) or be a 'labandera' (laundry woman) who washes his clothes for him. 'Madudunong ang mga taxi driver.' (Taxi drivers are smart).

During a marriage, the husband and wife can experience a sexual death. The wife bears children, finds other sources of fulfillment, her body gets bigger…that is when men look for others. But you’ll be surprised. A lot of mistresses are not as pretty or as accomplished as the wife.

Why is this so?

Because mistresses don’t argue. Here’s a quote from Jun Cruz: “At the end of the day I don’t need a bright woman to argue with, I just want a pretty girl who will shut up when she needs to shut up.” Men want somebody, someone who is low-maintenance emotionally. Men who have reached their Viagra stage especially lose a lot of confidence, and need women who try to restore it.

I know of a heterosexual, not bisexual, man who left his wife for a transsexual, even if he knew she underwent a sex change. The transsexual told me it had nothing to do with sex. She simply fulfilled all his psychological needs.
Essentially, every man is a narcissist, especially mama’s boys. And Filipino men are all mama’s boys.

A typical Filipino man is always dominated by women throughout his life. First, he is dominated by his mother, then a girlfriend, then his wife, then his daughter, then his mistress, then maybe a “chimay,” (maid or househelper) if he is a “chimay” killer, then by Mama Mary when he is old, gray and dying. Who is at fault in the relationship, the man or the mistresses?

The men are to blame, not the mistresses. The Philippines is the only country left where people still go to Mass every Sunday, and pews are filled from 8 a.m. to 5 p.m. and yet it is the also the only country where mistresses are freely flaunted. Also, we are the only country left without a divorce law.

by L.C.

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