If you could turn back time...?

Turn back time? Yes, yes , but only if I could do so knowing what I know now!

No way!
I'm having far too much fun right now.
:-)

Now I'm well into middle age, like most of my peers I expect, I've become more conscious of time speeding up.
To a ten-year-old, one year represents only a tenth of one's life, and so seems disproportionally long. However, to a 50-year-old one year is a pretty negligible span, and thus disappears in a flash. Mice have a life span of a couple of years, and so that time span encompasses their entire existence. Therefore, to them, it must seem to last a long, long time........
When you are in your teens and early 20s, the summers seem endless and your life stretches out ahead like a seemingly endless yellow brick road. It seems you have time in abundance, to fritter or to enjoy, and to go off in any direction you choose. It's only when you get into middle life that you realize that there are limits to life's largesse.

I must admit that these days it seems there are never enough minutes in the day to get through everything I want to do. When I was in my early 20s - on top of my studies and active social life - I had many hobbies, I produced many drawings and paintings, and I wrote hundreds of letters to friends. (A "letter" was an old form of communication that involved writing symbols in ink on a piece of paper, putting it in an envelope and allowing someone to physically deliver it to the addressee :-)
I realize that back in the day I probably had much more energy than I do now, which may partly explain my youthful hyperactivity. Now, though, on top of my day job and things to which I have to attend, fitting in anything else is sometimes pretty difficult, and even though e-mail has made communicating a doddle, I'm becoming lazier and less motivated. Even my best friends probably get fewer than a 2-3 "proper" mails a year from me. Maybe the things I once thought were important to communicate about now longer seem so; even over the course of the last two years, I've felt less inclined to blog :-) In fact this apparent dearth of free time largely explains my site activity. I log on here once a day to see if anything interesting has happened, and if not, I log off again. I simply don't have the time to spend in chat because to me it all seems so inconsequential and I'd rather do something productive in the real world. As blogging has a sort of "creative" aspect to it, I don't mind devoting a little time to it if the muse visits or (as in the present case) someone has started a thread that I think is relevant to my present life situation.

Would I want to turn back time? Certainly not. I'd hate to be a young person in the present age, and memories of my own youth several decades ago only have value in the context of my present age and situation. I'm happy with who I am and what I have experiencedachieved. There would be no purpose or reason to go back and redo things, and I'm glad I was born when I was and where I was. Sure, I've had bad experiences like everyone else, but one great merit of ageing is that it becomes easier to exercise your right to selective memory, and it's very therapeutic :-) I don't believe in the hereafter, and I firmly believe that life is what you make of it. Therefore it's counterproductive wasting time locked in a cycle of regret about things past. Life is a privilege: being sentient in a chaotic universe is a miraculous gift, and it's so tragic to squander it.

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SS: Of course, like most people, I sometimes toy with what I might have been able to wangle if I were able to return to youth armed with my present life experience (as I was painfully shy and riddled with complexes then). But then I think: naaahhhhh. I really do think that there's a natural order to things, and that there is magic and beauty in ephemerality. Something wonderful that is short-lived and passes quickly gains in value for having been experienced, rather than being massaged and propped up in an attempt to preserve it. If you are referring to a choice of life partner 29 years ago, then I think many people would share your thoughts. But as I said in my post above, what's done is done, and you have to develop a philosophy for dealing with the past, otherwise it becomes difficult to move forward.

Why regret the past? It makes you what you are today and todays actions will define your future.

Those that live in the past become old before their time, not saying dont enjoy the good things from the past like music, fashion (not eighties fashion) and the history of the past...but do not dwell on the "what could have been".

Things dont happen for a reason, they just happen...some good some bad, but inevitability suggests they will happen.
Embrace them head on and and enjoy life for all of its potential.

As for minor regrets....taking my son to see the Phantom Menace....i will never get that time back!!

I've got to agree with Luv2sucu and Sensual.
I've had a couple of rough years but I've come out of them a stronger person and life is good. No way would I want to go back in time and do it all over again.

If I could turn back time I could say what I should have said then..... No doubt creating another set of problems lol

If I could turn back time, knowing what I know now:-

I wouldn't have lost my virginity to her, i'd have waited a couple more months until I met the next lady I had sex with.

I wouldn't have got married.

I would have saved more money and paid off my mortgage earlier.

I don't have regrets (maybe just a few) about the things I have done, but I do regret the things I didn't do when I was younger - when I had the opportunity.
I'm now trying my best to make up for lost time and give the geriatric old me something to look back on with a smile or two.

God memories,some bad memories but I wouldn't turn back time to either re-live the great experiences nor to amend the mistakes I made. Let them lie, I say.Many of us bear life's battle ( metaphorical and actual ) scars but they are part of what makes us.

I am who I am because of the life I have lead, lots of good times and bad but they made me who I am and I quite like that person so no change from me.

If I could turn back time, I wouldn't have a guest staying over tonight. Then I would be free to roam my home in my saggy birthday suit and hopefully feeling a teeny bit cooler.

Ah, so that was you, was it SS! You just beat me to the last fan.

Is that your way of inviting us all to your place to cool off Suechris? ;)

Bloomin heck SensualS it's been so warm up here in the wild lands that i folded my bed sheets popped them in a bag then stuck them in the freezer so they were lovely and cold by the time i was ready to hop into bed lol. :-) x

Hello to you too Troxly and thanks for the compliment - very charming indeed!

Yes please to the iced coffee SS. Hopefully in a few days I can offer ice cream in return. It won't be a cornetto suechris however, I've decided to treat myself to a fabulous ice cream maker which should be arriving in the next couple of days - yay!!

Berlusconi......what a colourful character. Made politics actually entertaining :-) Bring him back I say.