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WHAT REALLY PUTS YOU OFF?

5:30 am Thursday, 16th April, 2015

I am getting closer and closer to my trip to the UK. I know I will meet my friends :) and I am still hoping I will meet that one person that will create truly memorable moments for me and for some reason the thought is exciting.

However, my mind has been wondering (I know again lol) what will happen when I meet him. The online world seems to be a world of fantasies and dreams, also perfection and full of sweet words. Chatting to many people have become my way to discover many things and even learned new things and of course new people.

If the person I chat with is articulate, bright, and witty, I am sure we click and everything seems fine and right. However, I know I am still missing on gestures and things that you can only see face to face.

Therefore, I am thinking what 3 things would put me off? What will make me stop even from kissing him or more. And this is what I came up with:

1. Smoking kisses. No, no the hot passionate ones. I want those terribly :P I meant the ones that belong to a person who smokes like a chimney. I know there must be ways to fix this so any recommendations will be welcome :)
2. Someone picking his nose during a date. I know what you are thinking. There is no way someone would do that during a date. You should come to China then and you will see
3. Someone getting wasted and therefore completely drunk. Now I am sure I don't need to explain why

I am sure you also have got yours. Please share, share, share. From personality, to gestures, to habits, to anything....



Comments
6:49 am Thursday, 16th April, 2015

Put offs ?
1. A lady acting and behaving like "one of the lads ".Trying to tell bawdy jokes, making a big thing about being able to drink any man under the table.Language is important too." I need to powder my nose " so much more feminine than " I'm off for a piss ! "
2. Although I pride myself on being tolerant of other people's opinions, I find that women who state their views over-stridently,in an extremist or over-bearing and aggresive fashion, a bit of a turn-off .
3, Bad breath,body odour, stale clothes,farting then saying "Oops ! I just let one rip ! ".Belching after a meal are fairly obvious things guaranteed to make one's libido,hit the ground with a resounding thud !

7:33 am Thursday, 16th April, 2015

1. Bad breath,body odour, stale clothes,farting or burps!!
2. Talking all about herself that she is this she is that, she likes this, pretending to be super dooper extra ordinary someone which really cooks me up!
3. No style, no accent, not trendy and all..

7:42 am Thursday, 16th April, 2015

I forgot to mention one of my biggest turn-offs.Whilst long ,well-manicured finger nails are attractive and sexy,I cannot abide women who don't pay attention to their toe nails,allowing them to grow way beyond the front of their sandals or strappy shoes, only slapping successive layers of nail varnish on these ever-extending talons. This does not mean I'm a foot fetishist,only that long,unkempt toenails make me feel somewhat queasy !

7:51 am Thursday, 16th April, 2015

Ohh yes i also forgot to mention one of my most BIGGEST turn off!!
Undone upper lips, hairy arms or legs or hairy body. Somehow i dont mind a bush on pussy but otherwise hairy girls are the biggest turn off!!

8:46 am Thursday, 16th April, 2015

Guys, guys and I thought I was being demanding hahahaha....Anyway, I can just see men replies and I am enjoying to see inside your minds atm. Now, I am expecting a huge come back from the ladies. img src="imagesadultemoticons022.gif" .

For now, I am just thinking and not commenting....

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9:22 am Thursday, 16th April, 2015

on ne voit bien qu'avec le coeur. l'essentiel est invisible pour les yeux!

Add insincerity and game players to your list!

11:00 am Thursday, 16th April, 2015

I admire your pluck in travelling 6000 miles for a date: something I definitely wouldn't contemplate unless I knew for sure there was a strong connection.

However, hypothetically speaking, I suppose that if I were in your situation, the main passion-killer for me would be that I'd been totally misled with regard to my paramour's physical attributes (primarily age, body type, and body condition). One can have a fantastic rapport via mail and share many opinions and philosophies, but if that first face-to-face moment leaves you sadly let down, then it's not going to happen (at least as far as I'm concerned). This is why I'm such a stickler for good communication (based on previous let-downs).

Long-distance trysts no doubt have their romantic appeal, but they can also be crushingly disappointing if you haven't done your homework.

12:48 pm Thursday, 16th April, 2015

Skebbie, I am not going to the UK to meet one person...hahaha I am going to the UK mainly to see my family and friends from the time I used to live there :)

However, I am hoping to meet someone "special" there while I am there...what will happen is a mystery....img src="imagesadultemoticons021.gif" Hopefully not big surprises....the question is who and when....I like those kind of surprises....

12:58 pm Thursday, 16th April, 2015

FFP: Then it definitely won't be me, unless you're going in JulyAug (sob,sob.......) :-)

1:19 pm Thursday, 16th April, 2015

I am...July and part of August :) and guess where?

2:40 pm Thursday, 16th April, 2015

Don't tell me......North Yorkshire :-)  But even if so, I'm sure there's no ulterior motive (haha.........).

2:46 pm Thursday, 16th April, 2015

Surprise!!!??? hahaha ...Wow!! I think we went way of topic here.....img src="imagesadultemoticons012.gif"

3:25 pm Thursday, 16th April, 2015

My top 3
1. Smells...either bodily or of arrogance.....(or bad perfume)
2. Intolerance and extremism
3. Lack on genuine intrest and interaction (with conversation stopping,,,,...even at body language level).....or being distracted by other men while chatting..hahahhahah

Dont know about insecurity..that could be a temporary thing or nervousness.....

I cant imagine any off these apply to freeforpleasure,,, :-)

3:13 am Friday, 17th April, 2015

OK. I can't think of one more thing to write here in relation to things that would put me off, all have been mentioned...

In a way it is exciting to meet someone who potentitally could impress you in so many ways. I am just hoping to be surprised in good ways and not bad ones :) I do admire so many qualities and it is quite sad to think I could be put off by something that is a little superficial but essential.

Nervous? I suppose I am....Expecting a lot? I try not to....Excited? Definitely....It almost feels like the end of my journey and experience here to be honest. I am wondering how this person will feel before meeting me. Do I know when and where? Not yet but I do know one thing I will make everything possible for an unforgetable day or night.img src="imagesadultemoticons001.gif"

4:40 pm Friday, 17th April, 2015

He better be nervous meeting such a wonderful person,,,:-)!!!!

9:16 pm Friday, 17th April, 2015

Free... After being on here for some time I would have to say make sure you both are on the same page. One misleading subject will derail it all. Keep an open mind about it all. But personal hygiene is high on the list. I agreeing the men, manipedis a must ( for u men too) , hair trimmed, brush or removed, breathe, body Odor and clothing that fits the occasion. Neat clean and pressed. This is like a job interview.... Ur first impression and best foot forward.
I wish u luck and it turns out yo b all u wished for.....as for your meet..... Please..... Don't wait til the same day to cancel. Be truthful and all will workout! Best to u both

11:29 pm Friday, 17th April, 2015

So basically its effort. If you can't be bothered to make yourself look your best. Can't be bothered to treat the other person with every courtesy they deserve. Can't be bothered to make the most of an opportunity you should feel privileged to receive then don't be surprised that the other person will feel let down and ultimately be turned off.
You get what you give .......

2:57 am Saturday, 18th April, 2015

Old: Glad to see a girl's comment finally and indeed a great one :) I would never ever not show up or mislead anyone from here....Once someone here did not show up and believe me it is not a great feeling to be stood up.

Psavour: U have defo a very acute feminine side...My mum used to say when you meet a man the first thing you should look at are the shoes and nails. That will tell u a lot....So I suppose I am trying to say i sound like her???? hahaha

Blue and Joe: I am sure you look lovely in any outfit....Did that sound wrong? img src="imagesadultemoticons021.gif"

3:01 am Saturday, 18th April, 2015

U sound like her *******

5:31 am Saturday, 18th April, 2015

I would agree with oldschoolfun,,,of course how cluld i disagree...but then again....it is more then just appaerence....if it is just only decoration and the genuine interest and chemistry is lacking then I prefer someone in ragged jeans and faded T who is truely open, curious and interested. But of course not with sirty finger nails, body smells and the downer list that has emerged here,,

11:43 am Saturday, 18th April, 2015

FFP....my mother said something similar....how clean teeth were and his shoes.... How funny it is to hear that saying from around the world.... Different takes on it. Averagejoe: ur post struck a nerve with me... I couldn't agree with u more!!!! OMG. If ur not going to put the effort into looking and doing ur best what do u have to offer the other person!! Amen to that! That relates to work, sex life, daily life and long term relationship. We all as humans have the same goal I think..... To love and be loved!!! You have to love yourself and be happy with yourself before you can give love to another and make that person happy. The other tie bit my mother told me...... How he treats his mum or their relationship tells a lot ..........
Psavour... It is a compliment from a woman that u have a feminine side.... It means that from our perspective ...... U understand us! That's a good thing. NOW... If that same compliment came from a man.....then be concerned?! LOL
I think ur just right...........as for cute.... I've yet to see. Lol img src="imagesadultemoticons024.gif"

10:29 am Monday, 20th April, 2015

To sum it all id just say first impressions really matter alot. So id xpect both parties to give it 100%..
Turn off would be uncleanliness.
Constantly on phone and not paying attention.
I love very good personal hygeine. So if i can make d effort to look smart and clean..the other party should also. Unless they arent really interested.. the effort people put on dates..basically shows how much effort they would put in the relationship.

6:15 pm Saturday, 25th April, 2015

there are things that turn me off, many of them have already been listed above, but I rather not htink of that when getting ready to meet someone new. I have discovered through my life that a possitive mindset beats everything.

Cheers, Baal :0)

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