From the home for the Bewildered

I think we all know what causes bad eyesight.....

sensual self very good point about the paying :D I think if you are going to be really part of a community or website then do it properly it really doesn't cost that much and you get so much more in return (clear pics, messages and vetted members for starters). But that is a separate issue.

As a photographer some of the pics really do make my cry because they could really be so much better with absolutely minor changes. Not necessarily playboy cover material, but much more fun and exciting for the people you want to show them off to.

Dark, blurry, badly framed pictures really don't help sell yourself. Maybe I should write a blog post about how to make your pictures more sexy. Anyone want to volunteer as a model to show the before and after? img src="imagesadultemoticons006.gif"

Sensual self .It's not just about pictures being blurred.Some people get themselves into very strange contorted positions that landmarks which would normally be evident, are completely lost amid indistinguishable flesh .xx
Average Joe, Well cut down on it a bit and wear glasses .Cheeky sod !

I'm sorry but can fetch and Ss please increase your font size I'm having trouble reading your comments img src="imagesadultemoticons026.gif"

Blurred..from a distance in the dark squinting...cloudy..abstract all are positives for my photos ...yuk..me nakked not good !!

I hear what youre saying Fetch...also its true a simple clear shot much more real and appreciatable..is that a word?

Last year a male friend keen photographer managed to persuade me to do a photo shoot...I was horrified at the suggestion at first..because of my hugeness...tiger stripes..flab etc etc etc...this man is just a friend..nothing more...I did agree..keen to actually see the results of what he could make me look like...an afternoon spent in the comfort of my own home..lighting..dressing up..much laughter..music.. wow my friend is clever with the camera..I am thrilled with the pics..its amazing how the mood my mood...relaxed state..was so evident in the photographs..even I look good ha ha !! I highly recommend to anyone if they get a chance grab it or grab a friend..lover..partner..set the scene and mood..relax..and shoot (the photographs)..

OK...Where should I start? I am not complaining about blurry pics. However, I am compaining about pics where it is obvious that it is not the best angle, light or situationplace for the "subject".

I don't know if it is me being the picky one but I really dislike pictures of guys with biceps poses, also very close close-ups of hairy noses, completely drunk, smoking and moobs (laughing now). I am not saying we all have got photographic skills but considering there are so many people here and so many options. I would really really try harder.

For me, a suggestive pic, a picture just smiling, or just in a natural setting are winners. I know not all show their faces but I don't either img src="imagesadultemoticons001.gif"

Fetch: Do I wish sometimes I had some sight problems? Definitely here some days :P

Not everyone is an Adonis or an Aphrodite, and I'm no exception. However, I think it's important to at least put up *some* sort of photo(s) on a profile to give people a rough idea of what to expect. The question is: how much is it possible to reveal without dashing the illusion that an individual *might* have some degree of physical appeal ? :-) I have a rough rule of thumb regarding the degree to which media reflect the true physical attractiveness of any individual: that is, potential attractiveness is directly proportional to the percentage body area depicted. In other words, people who have hang-ups about their appearance will tend to reveal proportionally smaller areas of their body, and vice versa. So for example, gym-fit body-pump maniacs will be happy to show off all their charms, whereas the more physicallyaesthetically challenged will not be persuaded to show anything more than - say - a tiny portion of cleavage, an isolated belly button, or an elbow.

However, I'm a strong believer that - no matter how low anyone's physical self-esteem might be - it's possible to produce some nice media with a bit of imaginative camera work, and there's certainly no need for PhotoShop.

I'm not interested in pictures of horses. All mine consist of my nag being last past the Finishing Post !

Lostman: I know what you mean. I now feel a little scrutinized...lol...Especially after Pavour's message. I do almost feel like hiding in a little corner to check if I tick some of the boxes...lol

Would concur with what a lot of psavour advises, but I still say there's no need for PhotoShop - many people don't have the time or tekkiness for full-on pic-doctoring. Cropping is the amateur's best friend :-) And above all......never use flash except in special circumstances. You'll look like a rabbit caught in headlights with all your acne and blotchy skin on full display :-)

I am actually laughing again. If i had been aware that I had to do that to get a decent pic, then I am sure I wud have been a mess. Offset? Dropped shoulder? Hahahaha...But i am.glad it gets ur approval img src="imagesadultemoticons021.gif"

since we are on the subject of pics ... how about cock pics ... do women like them, do they make them laugh or worse reach for the sick bucket?

I'm not talking about teasing shots. I'm talking about the straight on flash, over exposed, close up shots of man junk. The kind of stuff that would even churn the stomach of a seasoned urologist. Do they turn you on, do you want to see them?

Me personally willy pics dont do it for me

Re photograph of oneself...not on my profile I need a degree of discretion..kids..work etc..Im brutally honest about how I look and quick to send photos..real photos..of me to whomever Im communicating with

hullbuddy: It cuts both ways. For this particular bloke, point-blank shots of female pudenda do absolutely nothing for me. I much prefer to see the big picture (which perhaps brings us back to the main point of this thread). However, I know for a fact that some women *do* enjoy (reasonably aesthetically taken) pics of male equipment, which is why some are included on my profile. Perhaps the criteria that are applied to body shots in general (as discussed here) also apply to penises, when balanced by other profile photos. (?) I think there's a need to draw a line between something that is arguably "wholesome" and something that looks like a biological specimen :-)

I did not mention that in my previous comments but I really do not enjoy the pictures where guys just show their private parts....I quickly skip and I don't even read the profile. I am not saying some are not sexy but I think women in general are less visual and more into suggestive sexy pictures. However, I am just one woman, I am not sure maybe other women are completely different. :P

FFP: It's a well known fact that some previous lady bloggers fessed up to being cock-watchers, so yes they *do* exist :-)

For me .. I prefer pics that leave something to my imagination. I hate full on explicit pics. Clothed with a suggestion of what's insifde is so much sexier. And fetch. Peel the lairs off slowly and what u find at the middle will send u into pleasure heaven xxxxxxxx img src="imagesadultemoticons013.gif"

As your such an expert Psavour can you tell me how some men of a certain age manage to make themselves out to be much younger than they actually are?

Mac: I'm sure even gynaecologists get jaded after a while :-)

get a life

PEOPLE.....see past the pictures.....like SEE past the Colgate advert....it's not going to give you cleaner teeth.....read people's profile, arses from elbows lol....wouldn't it be lovely if all the profiles looked DisneyFied....white teeth, amazing pro photography....WE ARE PEOPLE IN ALL OUR SHAPES AND SHITTY PICTURES, LIVE WITH IT. The world is better for it :-)

RUBBISH

I think an interesting issue has been raised here (I know I adore debating lol). By skipping some people due to their pictures, are we actually being too superficial and missing on an amazing person who is maybe not very photogenic, does not have the tech skills or does not have the time?

psavour: Yes we should stick to topic :-) However, the original theme is very much related to personal self-esteem, I suspect. Going back to what I said above, pictures of isolated arses and elbows reflect reluctance to post media that reflect the whole person. I don't necessarily think it means the person lacks artistic sense. So when I see such media, I conclude - perhaps sadly - that the person in question has something to hide. Yes I know :-) we are all "beautiful" inside. But many of us are not here simply to savour the inner goodness of someone's wonderful character. There are other websites catering for people who want that, and once I'm "past it", I might transfer my allegiance to one of those sites. At least for the time being, though, I need some degree of physical appeal in order to be drawn to someone. In that context, character and shared values are a bonus, but I'm still very much a visual person and there are certain aesthetic boundaries I will not cross (although admittedly these are becoming eroded with each year that passes :-)

Didn't u know Lillie? It is the new trend "STICK TO IT!!!" img src="imagesadultemoticons012.gif"