THREESOMES ADDING SPICE AND VARIETY TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP

intriguing ways to spice up an existing relationship is to explore the possibility of a threesome. A third partner can change the chemistry between you and your partner if things have gotten a bit stale. It also In addition to the obvious physical allure of adding a third person to the mix, it is a source of variety and fun. That person can also change the balance of power if alternative lifestyle is part of your relationship, not to mention a genuine resource in your lives.

Physically, threesomes come in two basic flavors: MFF and MMF. The gender meaning is obvious: MMF equals two guys and a woman, while MFF means two women and a man. Some people use different acronyms, MFM and FMF, because they feel that using either the letters MM or FF back-to-back implies that the men or women involved are either gay or bisexual and will become sexual with one another during the threesome experience. This is mostly about semantics, but it does illustrate some of the sensitive issues revolving around different comfort zones that can come into play when planning a threesome.

When it comes to chemistry and the experience itself, threesomes also tend to come in two completely different flavors: spontaneous and planned. Spontaneous threesomes can happen in a variety of ways — a couple is having a night out with a mutual friend and the attraction is there, either articulated or unspoken, but it is present, and the situation plays out in such a way that sparks begin to fly and it happens (not surprisingly, libido-loosening substances are occasionally involved). Or a couple that’s into the swing scene goes to a party, they see someone they both like and invite that person to explore the threesome experience.

Planned threesomes are an entirely different experience. In these scenarios, one or both partners express an interest in trying a threesome, either for novelty or to integrate threesomes as part of their sexual lifestyle. Discussions happen, negotiations ensue, and if both partners are on the same page they adopt a strategy to find the right person to be the third and figure out what they want from the experience.

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