Why did you join this site?

Like mac wearing bloke and bbw, I was originally looking for some shagging...but to be honest it's almost too much like hassle and I pretty much come here to interfere with the blogs now. My paid membership expired this week. ..will I renew? I don't know, will have to think about it a bit...
I've met some really nice people both on and off line. ..not what I was initially expecting!

Very interesting, revealing and thought-provoking blog,my dear Submissive Lady.Congratulations.
I stumbled across this site via a link in a spam message .Normally,I delete these but curiousity got the better of me and I soon found myself in the cut and thrust of the chat room ( metaphorically speaking )
Being one who takes things as they come and generally goes with the flow,I couldn't say that I have any firm expectations but have been gratified to meet up or speakcorrespond s with many interesting,amusing and thoroughly delightful people ( yourself included,of course )
I am an afficionado of serendipity and enjoy the frisson of something popping up in my life which I had neither planned nor expected.
Sorry,I can't be more definitive ( I may make a New Years resolution to be more specific in my aims....but I somehow doubt that will come to much ! )

Firstly, Submissivelady, I enjoy reading your blogs - they are thought provoking and this one has even prompted me to make my first post!
Hands up, my initial interest in the site was as a nosey observer. Although I've had experiences with like-minded couples and groups I admit to being voyeuristic when it comes to understanding what makes us all tick in this scenario.
But having been a pure observer, I decided I wanted to explore further and I finally took the plunge recently and signed up. I had been contemplating it for a while but I was frustrated at not being able to communicate with those I found interesting. A particular couple grabbed my attention and it appeared I had done the same to them, but when I gained full membership and made a polite approach, I did not receive a reply.
I accept that not having photos on my profile does rather limit my appeal, but for the purposes of discretion at work that cannot change. So I will persevere and maybe my expectations will be rewarded, but if not, nothing ventured ....

So having taken the time and trouble to write a proper response, this is the moment the site decides to ask me again which version of the site I want to see and in the process throws away my post. I was just getting interested. Grrrrrrr

I started chatting to a guy on a general chat site, and after a while, we wanted to see what the other looked like. For various reasons, none of the traditional methods of camming worked for us, so one night he said, don't think the worst of me, but I know this site where we can go on cam.....Et voila, EG arrived on here. He remains a good friend, and though I rarely talk to him now, I've hooked him up with my best friend, they are in love and have been together two years now.I found the site fun and stayed.

trying again ..... I have had a user name on the site for quite a few years, but I saw it as a place for people to find casual encounters, and for me, a place to look up details of clubs and the like (for which I did not need to pay). I have just paid my first subscription and now I find the blogs. Fascinated by your discoveries submissive lady (and I love the guppies comment - whether guppies have teeth or not). I made my discoveries about 15 years ago on Internet Chat. I have no idea how I ended up on there. I guess I started looking for some quick cyber at a time when I was living in constrained circumstances overseas. But I discovered two things that I would never have predicted. First a creative streak (I use the word streak advisedly) and secondly a pleasure in being Dom. Now in real life, I don't really want to tell anyone what to do - I want everyone to get on with life and pretty much let me get on with mine. I am no control freak - very much the libertarian opposite. (though in reality of course, taking charge does sometimes get things done more efficiently and effectively). But when it comes to the down time, the relaxation, the pleasure zone - I found that Dominance is a real turn on - I find relaxation and pleasure in my shadow. Rope and control and command (and especially enforced delayed gratification) are the stuff of real satisfaction. I would never have found that without a place such as this. A place where creative experimentation is not only possible but encouraged, and where I can try out the sorts of things that would horrify my friends and potentially lose me my job! Incidentally - I recently found an elderflower gin on an Edinburgh street market stall - divine! Now for me also - sunshine and a good walk

One day I was reading an article about how rich Chinese people were changing their traditional hobbies due to the excessive amount of money they have got nowadays. Apparently, they are trying new things and swinging is one of them. The article gave a link and voila, I was here in the hub. Therefore, I was curious and kind of hypnotized by the blogs. I was smiling and even laughing when reading them. Then, I was hooked and came back to read and check profiles.

I have traveled far and wide, I have friends from different religions, nationalities, and races. However, nothing prepared me for the hub. Wow!! what a ride! I have chatted with amazing witty, smart, and fun people. I have been in the chat for 9 weeks now and I have to say the hub has had an impact in my life. I used to think everything was either black or white. Now, I have realized it is not bad to be sexy and sensual and that there are many shades of gray.

I am not into sexcams or just one night stands. I always stated that on my profile. Therefore, sex for the sake of it is not in my agenda but I truly find many people here incredibly sexy and attractive. Do I wish for a happy ending? Secretly yes, but it is part of the online world in a way to find a connection so deep that makes u dream. Right?

Will I continue here? For now definitely yes, but just because I would miss terribly some people who I laugh with here and other who I call friends. Until when? Well, how to know that? Will I meet a person here? Definitely.

Freeforpleasure....yes! I also have traveled much and have friends around the world. What drew me to each was an enquiring mind. But one of the things that had interested me about chatting online with people who have a, shall we say open, view of sexuality and behaviour is that although there are many mindless chasers of sex, I have found some wonderfully interesting thoughtful people who are no less interested in physicality, but who can talk so amusingly and creatively about it. When I first find a good chat community, it was like a part of me had come home. I found people who think and question like I do but on a subject which in my world is near taboo. And I could talk freely about the taboos themselves. And whilst this is a kind of escapism, it is also a place of reality for me.A part of my real self is allowed to be itself.

Submissive Lady.Have no fear ! You will not peep out of your window one day and seeing ageing,wrecked ex-Para, parading down Gravesend High Street in his No,1 uniform.The only reasons that I keep it are a) for old times sake and b)because being hand-tailored it was bloody expensive and I'm a bit of a hoarder ! Several adies have asked me to post a photo of myself in it but that photo is over 35 years old and I do not fancy the " Dorian Gray " effect in reverse.
Sue,I'm interested to hear of your liking for ballet.I must admit that I don't understand the finer points of it but love some of the music. I did have a delicious encounter many years ago, with a delightful lady from the Royal Ballet School but that as they say,is another story.
Meantime i agree with you.Yes, it is a bit chilly for skinny dipping here in Espana.I await yor kind invitation when it warms up a bit !

Part time at Sue's place !!!!
Submissive lady ,I'll bring my old uniform if you insist but don't expect me to be able to breathe when I'm wearing it ! xxxx

This is day 2 for me-toe in the water stuff. Was delighted with the quality of blogs. I suddently feel among frieds and like minded souls who actually talk to each other with total acceptance and are not judgemental. Especially impressed by your contribution.to reflect on your "what is the hub" comment, there is no "just me" there is only " one you" and being unique is kinda special don't you think........hope to make friends on this
site and would love you to be)

Submissive Lady.Sue is absolutely correct.There are times of extreme heat here when all one can do is to take an hour or so's siesta.
Our role-playing games of " Red Indian Brave and his Squaw " of " The Army Officer and the WRAC Private " or " The Naughty Job Applicant removing her red bra and thong to impress the interviewer " would best be en-acted in the cool of the evening . xxxx

I came here for dangerous but lusty days and nights with liberated folk after a lifetime of dangerous conformity and order.

I also found the prospect of mixing champagne with jelly babies rather joyous.

Its been a year or two now since I joined and I find it as much fun now as it was back then.

Thanks folks!!

Rigger, I felt very compelled to see your profile again today. Funny I have to say u got lovely legs :)

Quite simply, it's something that takes me away from the everyday expectation to conform and abide by social rules. Some people join clubs where they regularly meet up with badminton, dance or tennis partners. I was always rubbish at tennis so apart from the fact that I love an excuse to drink champagne, I also like good company and great sex. To some extent this is my way to escape, relax and enjoy ...

"Must be from climbing up and down onto that tractor of his ..."

I couldn't possibly comment. Oo-er! ;-)

Phew, I nick off for a few days and look what happens, you've all been at it like rabbits !! Posting that is.. ;-)

This thread in particular is choc a block with deep meaningful stuff Very impressive too.. I'll have to give it all some thought.

I've really enjoyed reading the thread.. People have been very revealing about their motives and that's refreshing. Nobody seems to have been pushing their egos to gain Brownie points etc.

So, for now, I'd just like to wish everyone a belated Happy New Year and hope your hopes and wishes for 2015 do come true x x.

I love language: "have even been given a few tips and tricks on putting a twist on a bj! [mind you don't hurt your neck] lol. So all very much tongue in cheek [is that at the same time as the twisting motion?]"

yey

I joined as the only people that get swinging are swingers and chatting about it to others doesn't work. Do I miss it, oh yes, not just the physical site but the social as well. Swingers are an open minded bunch and fun in and out of the bedroomlounge or whether takes their fancy

Hello Submissive. I loved everything you said. I would love to get to know you better. You are whitty and very charming. Hope to catch up with you soon. God bless you. Gary x x x

I joined this site because i want to have sex with bi or guys guys

At this stage of the game, it's probably a bit late to make an impressionable contribution, but for some reason I got distracted by various things over New Year (say n'more....) and - judging from the title - I'd never have guessed that there'd have been such a diversity of posts.

I've been "adult dating" for well over a decade, and on this site for probably half the time I've been using others. I think the main appeal was that it's UK-based, and as I return to the motherland on a regular basis, I think I felt the need to conjoin occasionally with fellow Britflesh
and to keep up to speed with my origins: I didn't want to become one of those eccentric expats who becomes a stranger to his own culture.

Although primarily I'm looking for meets, I discovered the blogs just short of two years ago, and since then it is the blogs that have mainly kept me here. People are generally hesitant or reluctant to contact total strangers when it comes to sexual matters, but in the blogs I think people feel more free to mingle and mouth off without any potential consequences. They also give people a chance to think about what they want to say, without any obligation, expectation, or the possibility of making an arse of themselves through ill-considered responses in the chat rooms (or at least what I imagine the chat rooms to be :-)

Although no site is perfect, and this site in particular has a number of somewhat prudish overtones (if I can be permitted to say so......), I've found that human exchange here is very good. Therefore I intend to stick around, at least for a while longer (in the hope that blog moderation will be eased a little......hint, hint........)

In the meantime, Dixon remains available for those who feel inclined to sign his dance card ;-)

Love to ravishing your lovely  body  

I'm  unsure  what is real

Why have I come across this in the "recent" section of the Blogs?  How curious.  They say better late than never but I'd say this is beyond late but what the hell.

Why I'm here....well I think  Submissivelady has pretty much hit the nail on the head with escapism, perving at the pics, reading the blogs and getting other peoples points of view, find out if I'm missing out on anything, find out if my tastes are weird and my appetite excessive, and exploring some fantasies.  I'm highly unlikely to be indulged in fantasies (or even discussions about fantasies) at home so here seemed a good start and maybe along the way I'd find someone with similar interests to meet up with and enjoy the physical side.  Like most of these types of sites though if you say your interested in chatting you don't seem to get much response, it seems to scare people away.  Why is it that so many of the profiles who stipulate "there has to be some kind of connection" once you do get chatting one of their first requests is "have you got a face pic"?

The previous post illustrates one of the main problems with this site: too many dodgy profiles. Once you get chatting it soon becomes obvious that you are being led off down a side-path towards a rival site. For some inexplicable reason all the photos of person in question are on the *other* site and not on this one - and of course you have to shell out for a subscription before you can see anything :-)) No doubt on the rival site there are similar fake profiles leading to yet more sites: It's a bit like a set of Russian dolls - you open the first shell and then you find another underneath. And then another........ :-))