Do you have a crush on the site?

I think "crush" here means someone interesting that you're never likely to meet - usually because of geography, or sometimes because of the age difference. I suppose it's a form of admiration that is never likely to be "consummated", and so allows a more relaxed form of interchange.

I agree that many people will indeed tell you what you want to hear if there's even a slim chance they can get into your knickersboxers. However, in the case of a crush, you can enjoy a form of communication that involves no pressure or serious expectations.

I suppose the content of an individual's hotlist is more representative of lust rather than fascination, whereas a crush is something more cerebral (although I suppose distant physical attraction may also be a factor).

Thanks for your kind words Sensual.

Skebbie, I think you have completely understood what I meant. A crush is more platonic...It is more like an ethereal feeling for someone...I admire his mental skills and his generosity in this case. However, I am sure we would never have anything and so we have got what you just described, a very easy going relation with no expectations....Maybe just a little hope...:)

"I'm not sweet enough to inspire crushes"

Oh......I dunno......... ;-)

Stargirl...I love happy endings...Thanks for sharing this...It makes me hope even for more....I wish you all the best and be even happier if possible :)

Surely everyone has a crush don't they? We can't all be cynical and cold hearted that we dismiss people as time-wasters and liars?
I refuse to believe that there isn't the tiniest bit of romanticism and innocence in even the most skeptical and pessimistic of us.

Congratulations and good luck to you Stargirl, that's lovely news.
I hope all goes well and to plan xx.

There are a few folks on here who when I see them in chat or wherever get me in a bit of a fluster.

There are others who I have actually met and the butterflies have definitely been present.

So I think that the crush word applies - albeit with a healthy dose of "no strings"

Nope, I've not had a 'Crush' since back in my school days and that didn't pan out too well as i married the man (using the word man is very grudged) which didn't turn out have a fairy tale ending.

Crush. Yes! and I mean major crush. AND he knows it.

It's a double edged sword. We might have met in other circumstances, but as is things are a bit too hazy for it to be real.

Maybe some day?

Grit your teeth and ask him to meet you?
Is it out of the question E.G.?


I'm a teensy bit jealous of him already, lol.

lol slow. not entirely out of the question, but as meeting again for anything but coffee is not really looking likely.....well. We'll see.

no need for jealousy. i don't think? who knows, he may find this blog and respond....and then we can get down to serious public flirting. in the meantime, I don't think jealousy is necessary

Tell me his name and I'll do that "my friend fancies you" thing ;-)


No I was only playing, I'm not jealous, but he IS lucky to have you holding a candle for him x.

Thanks, and you're welcome to tell him any time :)

Crush ? Hmmm ? I enjoy crushing the idiots and trolls who get on here and make pests of themselves with lovely ladies who have to suffer the attention of these fools. However,I don't think that's the sort of " crush " you had in mind.img src="imagesadultemoticons021.gif"

Crush ? Hmmm ? I enjoy crushing the idiots and trolls who get on here and make pests of themselves with lovely ladies who have to suffer the attention of these fools. However,I don't think that's the sort of " crush " you had in mind.img src="imagesadultemoticons021.gif"

Yes, I do have a crush in the way you describe - a friend first and foremost. I chatted easily with him in the room and have had the luck to meet him in person - not that type of 'meet'. I was and am going through some personal issues which put me in a very bad, dark and low place and he listened gave a comforting shoulder and cuddles, did not judge and has become a very dear friend :), as are you. xxxximg src="imagesadultemoticons013.gif"

"I enjoy crushing the idiots and trolls who .... make pests of themselves with ... ladies who have to suffer their attention"

You sound like Marv from "Sin City" :-) Admirable :-)

Dunno whether I'd rank Sin City as "culture", but just let's say I enjoy putting a face to a character :-)

If she has all her own teeth and is available then I have a crush on her most likely :)

Sin City was brilliant. Loved it.

Had a crush on ALL the women in it, lol.

您好FFP，英語可能不是你的第一語言，但你用得很好。比我更好的中國無論如何;-）。我希望你繼續寫在這裡，因為我們都喜歡讀您的博客。

慢X。

Dear Slow, Thank you for your kind words. I am sure many people will be using google translator right now to know what u wrote lol....Did you write all this by yourself? If so that is amazing. 但是，我要告诉你。我不是中国人，但你让我觉得非常欢迎。img src="imagesadultemoticons013.gif"

Ohhhhh.. you're not?
It did seem a good idea at the time ;-)

I used to do a similar thing years ago for a friend, she said it was nice to see her own language for a change... and it's easy enough nowadays isn't it.



And.. I'm glad you do.. because you are! Lol.

Why was my Japanese rejected by Admin, whereas the Chinese comments above still stand? I'm beginning to feel I'm a marked man :-)

graham: I can turn my head through 360 degrees too :-)

Skebbie, it surprised me too to be honest.
Even as I 'typed' it in, I was shaking my head because I thought I'd be wasting my time.

I guess admin' must have googled it and saw it was completely innocuous, so let it ride.

I'm not complaining, good for them!

Mine was innocuous too :-)

I speak several languages.English,Spanish,Yiddish and Rubbish.

Awwww Mixgas!!! img src="imagesadultemoticons013.gif" My Fetch too img src="imagesadultemoticons013.gif"

Wanna, even if she is not free. That should not stop you from having a crush, right? Have u told her? Does she know? Sorry now being nosey...lol

hahahah Wanna, now I am truly truly blushing here....You are very kind..Thanks...

Oh what the heck, i think i must be missing something as i've never really been the type to have a crush since back in my early 'teens'. Now had you asked if there were some dishy chaps that i 'like' or felt an attraction towards, that would be a completely different story ;-) x

Guy: You should not feel bad about things from the past. JUst live the future and who knows another amazing person will be waiting for you.

SSG: I did not have a crush when I was younger but here on the site, I think it comes down to people who I feel I know due to many things but I maybe never meet. :)

Mmmm...did u just write from in China? From meaning other girls, in meaning you are digging your way here....Either way, I would not mind seeing you blushing Mac lol

Ive got a girly crush on Fetch...chuckles...its the army balmy in me and my love of words

Online crushes are strange :-) You slowly discover the personality of a person through chats, blogs and pictures, and you mentally create an image of your crash, both physically and psychologically.
When the moment of truth arrives (the first face to face meeting), you get often disappointed... but the few times you are not, WOW!! the intensity of the crush is devastating :-D

By the way Free... you are probably the only crash that I ever had on this site :-)

Star: I was smiling about your last line. You wrote "crash" and I was wondering the picture you have created for the readers hahaha img src="imagesadultemoticons026.gif"

Now if you meant "crush", oh well!! now I feel the pressure is on (blushing too of course)...Thanks!

:-D This passed the spelling checker scrutiny... After a second thought I think "crash" (in the connotation, bumping into each other), is not such a bad thing... LOL

started to hate this site, for free member, this site is a prison. looking for prison break.