Piss and moan....Bitch Fest.....Gripe and Groan....

Aye, no matter how shite may seem, living in the UK there's no ebola, armed uprising, murder squads etc that many less fortunate bastards have to pit up with on a permanent basis.

Life may not be perfect, but it could be a fuckload worse!

But despite my cheery demeanour, my sinuses hurt, my head aches, I'm knackered and I really can't be arsed to spend the rest of the afternoon on the phone to some foreigners. ..

I saw a programme on TV last night about differences in subjectivity between males and females. Yes "man flu" is a popular legend, but in fact it seems women are more sensitive to pain - on the whole - than are men. Of course a lot of that is to do with social conditioning: it's not "manly" to be a cry-baby :-) On the whole, though, I've found that women tend to moan more on sites like this than do men (while acknowledging there *are* exceptions). Perhaps it is a female form of stress relief: they are better at vocalizing their dissatisfactions and letting off steam, whereas blokes (in general) tend to bottle it up, and that can lead to explosive and damaging outbursts. So yeah.....bitch away, I say. I'm sure it's better for your mental health, even if no-one is listening :-) (Or I guess you could see the vicar or ring the Samaritans :-)

'See the vicar'...nudge nudge, wink wink. ...

"seeing the arse off the vicar"

I'm having no part of that type of depravity! !

I thought the other ladies on here only communicated with each other to warn them off certain men that appear in mutual hotlists so as to mark their territory? That's been my experience more than once!

EG ((((((((BIG HUG)))))))) from Roger xxxxxx

It must have been clear to other members on here,how devastated I was ( and still am ) having had to have my lovely English Setter put to sleep last week.
I was very touched by the kind remarks that were made and how many people sympathized with, and understood my loss.
Sincere thanks to all those nice people

Hugs to you Fetch, I know how upsetting that can be x

Oh you guys, big (((HUGS))) to you all.x

Even though i had a rough couple of years i never gave up hope and kept my eyes fixed on the light outside the dark cloud i was surrounded by. I am Just happy to have come out the other side. I hope only good times are ahead of me. I am always hear for my friends to lend then a shoulder to cry on and an ear to bend, Oh and 'mums' always the word.

Fetch i'm sorry to hear of your loss huni!!!! Sending you lots of love & kisses.xxxx

Bloomin auto correct Grrrrr, sorry.......I'm I always HERE for my friends.xx

One of the unintended consequences of this site seems to be the friendships we create. It appears that no matter how bad you feel with all the crap going on in the real world, there is always someone here to have a listen, put an arm around you and tell you it's going to be alright. Probably some of whom we shall never ever meet outside of these cyber boundaries.

Maybe we should forget the naughty step and create a hugging corner so that the next time the shit hits the fan in your life we can just curl up and get the warm, fuzzy feeling of everyone's arms around us until all the crap fades away......

You are all lovely people and I thank you from the bottom of my heart. xxxx
Word for our Sue.All the dogs I've had here have been rescue dogs.The Setter was found roaming the streets at 1 year of age and we both knew instantly, we were made for each other. The Labrador which I still have, I found in a basura ( that's a communal waste bin I should explain for others ) at 4 weeks old.The Podenco had been kicked out as a 6 month old puppy as he was epileptic and no good for hunting.Too early for me to contemplate getting another dog but we shall see. xxx

Fetch, not cool to lose a hound I know, but I'm sure there's lots of really smelly stuff to roll in and eat in doggy heaven!

Sensual, help yourself. ..my kleenex doth verily run over!

Have you got a company of crack bavarian gunners to lob whiz bangs at you all night?

That's near enough!

"Happiness is an act of will"

(A comment on the statement, not the person saying it!!! or on anything else)

...despite life throwing many many curveballs at me, I got beyond it all and decided I'd be happy, no matter what Asshole tells me or does.

I am generally an upbeat, happy person.

I do, however, have my moments of insecurity and self doubt, and these came raging out at me last week. Some things can NOT be overcome by will alone, a fact I attest to with all my heart. You can pretend to be happy and content when you're not....that's an act of will, and damn strong will in some cases. But at times it's just too much to pretend anymore, you need a shoulder to cry on (thanks, anonymous listener and others who've been there at other times).

Life is too short to be unhappy, right? at the same time, telling someone to not feel bad because others have it worse is as much crap as telling someone to not feel happy because others have it better.

We all have our down times, and thank god you are out there for me when I need you ! Thanks.

((((Hugs)))) EG XXXX life will get better ;)

I also find sex to be a superb anti-anxiety solution, though as for an anti-depressant it can sometimes backfire and make me feel worse.

Sometimes the dark thoughts just appear and I can't make them go away...depression IS a physical illness, though still so misunderstood. Mild depression can be controlled by thinking about other things; telling someone with major depression to do the same is akin to telling a diabetic to control their insulin output by telling their body to react differently to food. Who knew the blogs could be educational?

And I'll wager clim that those two percentages add up to pretty close to 100!

So how was the bull in the end, did he share your trench?

Sounds like it all went pretty well then given the circumstances

Ronalds right , I agree with him, just try to keep moving. Just go through the motions even if it seems pointless and not at all what you want to do.

Doing things, almost anything, at least helps us to stop 'thinking' doesn't it.

It's not being in the shit that f***s us up, it's the staying in the shit.

Also, even suicidalists (?) can be optimists..
Did you see Sky news a couple of months ago?
They had folk talking about that bloke who jumped off a tower block..

Apparently, residents by their open windows could hear him shouting "So far so good"
all the way down..!! :-)