We Are Not Your Friends

I add people that want to chat not just ones I would or wouldn't meet I just like to talk hope people dnt mind xx

I'm probably notorious on here for my conservative "friending" policy. At one time I decided it was easiest not to have any - after all, I don't actively "follow" the activities of other people, and I knew the whereabouts of those people I'd had contact with, so what was the point of owning a "china cabinet" at the bottom of my profile? :-) Basically, I knew who I got on with, without having to make a public statement about it.

Earlier in the year, I relented a little because for some people it was evidently important, so who was I to be a miserable old get if someone wanted "to be fwends"? :-) However, for me the bottom line is having any realistic interaction. So if after a while "fwendly" people turn out to be inert and non-communicable, then they get the chop. Sounds a little intimidating, perhaps, but I've always believed in running a tight ship :-)

Ron: Don't worry, mate. At least you've got *me* :-)

Ackrey: Horses for courses I suppose, as I'm never in chat:-) I agree with you up to a point, but online "friends" have the potential to become a bigger pain in the arse that real-world people if things go sour. The online world is full of unseen cliques and alliances: a bit like jockeying for position within a political party. People's noses can get put out of joint if they are rejected as "friends" while seeing others that are retained or accepted.

I admit my attitude is a bit too simplistic, maybe, for a site like this, but it reduces the potential for unpleasant fall-out or disappointment. If you feel compelled to chop people in retaliation for unpleasantness in (say) the blogs or in chat, this may be viewed as childish by some, whereas my own view would be that if I've been metaphorically head-butted, what would be the point of staying friends with someone?

Personally, I'm happy to keep the friending business to a minimum.

Tend to go on pics and interests

I like to know who's online when I am. I have many "friends" and periodically weed them out if we don't chat for a long time. Doesn't matter if we'll never meet (I will never meet a tenth of those I've talked to); some people are just fun to engage with.

My general rule is that I only friend someone I've chatted with--and like. And not all of those. I rarely send friend requests.

I never accept random friend requests from unknowns. It's a pet peeve of mine to keep receiving requests from people over and over after I've hit the ignore button.