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what are the rules for meeting someone off the site

8:32 am Tuesday, 12th August, 2014

Can someone please, the more experienced swingers, how does it all work, after arranging g for a meet and chattednthrough messaging for a couple of hours agreeing time, venue and what I would wear, I then had to deal with normal day to day stuff and had to switch my phone off as I have kids did not want them to accident my see what I am doing. Only to have the couple change their mind as I had not responded to the bombardment of messages. Is it me or what what is normally accepted, want to get this right for next time, was very disappointed as I was looking forward to the evening any suggestions great fully received.



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eroticgoddess eroticgoddess
9:37 am Tuesday, 12th August, 2014

I think anyone who changes their mind so suddenly because you're not there 247 is a bit of a waste, personally.

I'd just say give it time to find the right one(s) to meet and they'll come along for a perfect time. Good luck.

Skebbie Skebbie
10:49 am Tuesday, 12th August, 2014

From my own viewpoint.......
Simply arrange a date via email and then stick to it :-) Use a web-based mail client with password protection accessible from your phone. It's not rocket science. No need for dozens of messages. By all means check mail a couple of times beforehand just in case.

I agree with EG: People who expect some sort of mail bombardment and likely more into titillation than the real thing.

stew1960 stew1960
10:29 pm Thursday, 21st August, 2014

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mushroomnofunguy mushroomnofunguy
11:00 pm Thursday, 21st August, 2014

THERE ARE LOTS OF NICE PEEPS ON HERE AND LOTS OF OTHERS, SEEMS LIKE YOU GOT ONE OF THE OTHERS MOST DECENT PEOPLE UNDERSTAND THE COMMUNICATION THING AND THE FACT YOU HAVE OTHER COMMITMENTS. YOU FORGET THEM MOVE ON. USE YOUR GUT FEEL, HAVE FUN AND STAY SAFE X

valiant10 valiant10
11:54 pm Thursday, 21st August, 2014

Always speak on the phone,make sure that the phone call doesnt come fro a unknown number and skype face to face.Then you get no problems with the meeting.whether it goes to plan is then down to bot of you.Happy hunting

Fetch1 Fetch1
5:21 am Friday, 22nd August, 2014

Only my personal viewpoint but I have found that, by making a firm date ( during the daytime ) to meet in a public place for coffee or a drink plus a chat,makes the other party feel more confident,especially as the suggestion usually comes from me.
In safe surroundings it can more easily be determined if ther is chemistry or a will to develop the relationship.It then follows, that multiple phone calls? messages are not so necessary.
There is a lady here ( you know who you are ) who I intend to make initial contact with,in the middle of an 80,000 rugby crowd. img src="imagesadultemoticons021.gif" img src="imagesadultemoticons021.gif"

AmericanLana AmericanLana
8:28 pm Friday, 22nd August, 2014

Yeah, even though there are some extra rules that make this sort of thing a little more safe and comfortable, the basic rules for dating or having a fling still apply. If someone you met face to face and flirted with reacted that childishly to you having an adult commitment to your family, you would immediately kick them to the curb and be right to do so. Same thing works here. I also like to have a skype convo before a meet-up, just to make sure this person is at least honest and straightforward enough to have given me a real picture and actually speak to me virtual face to virtual face.

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