Launching a lover. Sadly not into outer space.

Actually, if I may go off at a possibly self-indulgent tangent in the first instance......this latest atrocity has affected me like no other in recent memory.

As well as grieving inside for those who were taken from us, all sorts of anger has been boiling up inside me and spilling over in many directions, most notably aimed at those who think being a soldier or brandishing weapons is somehow "manly" and "glorious", and how it is all condoned by misogynistic old gets with beards and robes who wave crucifixes and splash "holy water" around. As the Ukrainian PM said, they are indeed "bastards" who have no right to be living in the present age. I find it sad in the extreme that many women continue to find goons and thugs in uniform "sexy", and that militarism continues to be glorified. Did the women of Berlin in May 1945 find soldiers "sexy" I wonder?

I've always tried to jettison lovers delicately and diplomatically if I feel things are not going well, or if they have crossed a line of incompatibility that convinces me that it was, after all, a mistake. I'm not vindictive, vengeful or confrontational. In the reverse situation, I've had women deliberately pick fights with me in order to end it when they simply didn't have the integrity and honesty to tell me they'd found someone else (which would have been fine with me.....). But no, they had to make out it was me who was the villain of the peace. I prefer to remain on good terms with exes, but some women like confrontation. Maybe they should pal up with some of those goons in uniform with the extra Y chromosome......

I suppose for me, the main line in the sand is when lovers start asking for money or access to my private life: "If you like me enough then of course you'll lend (i.e. give) me 500 quid" etc. I also had another who wanted the key to my cottage in UK so she could entertain her kidsauntiefriends whenever she felt like a break, and got very shirty and spiteful when I said no (and then claimed she'd faked all her orgasms.........hilarious !)

As I've intimated here before, I'm a man of peace and always have been. Call me naive and stupidly idealistic but I'll never change.

I've never had a lover that I wanted to launch. Does that make me lucky, unlucky or just ... me.

Never had the situation crop up in fairness!

I have one of those big old fashioned pedal operated grindstones, a hangmans noose, and a set of very long knives.

Usually sharpening them up in the lounge at three in the morning with the noose hanging from the rafter behind me does the trick! Occasionally I have to add, "I think it's time you left now" but so far I've never had a problem!!!!!

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Ps, Skebbie, succinctly put, share your emotions buddy, me too!

suechris: Just had a peep. Thanks :-)

Launching points....I think the 3 hour raging tantrum because I folded the towels in halves instead of thirds was a turning point in realizing something was not quite right with my man.

Then there was the time he pinned me between the door and the wall to keep me from following him to wherever he was going (please tell me why I wanted to? No idea what goes on in my head sometimes).

Then there was the time....well, no use going there.

I, however, am not a rocket scientist so the actual launch was, instead, full mental shutdown for quite a while.

These days, if it feels like disrespect in any way shape or form, I walk away. No blinking necessary.

I think this blog should have a new title - "ladies who do launch" should do it.

Skebbie is right - martial excess has nothing whatsoever to commend it, particularly when being manipulated by clever feckers in in suits.

Ever since a very long time ago I have studiously avoided anything remotely resembling a situation where launchingbeing launched was a possibility. There are downsides to this though.

Like Skebbie I too am an advocate of peace. Nothing quite like seeing the alternative up close and very impersonal to sort that one out.

As for binning unwanted Klingons I can offer no advice except that if any lady needs to do so by getting caught in in flagrante delicto I might volunteer...

Just a thought lilith, arent all lovers we meet just lauchees from another personplace that have landed in our space for one reason or anotherimg src="imagesadultemoticons026.gif"

Pain doesn't do anybody any good...but you're not taking his cat out of some sense of guilt?

Tolerance is the key word.Intelligent people should be able to have differing views without being dogmatic about them.If they come up in discussion,a civilized debate not an intransigent shouting match should ensue.I happily accept other people's positions on things like say, politics,religion,or any preferences which differ from mine ,providing the views are not forced upon me or that I am expected to agree with them,or for them to agree with me.

GTF

Skebbie, so many of your so called 'goons in uniforms' have been killed or maimed for life while fighting for the freedom of speech that you have so eloquently exercised above. For that, I will be forever grateful, even you're not. Point your views at the politicians and dictators and leave the brave servicemen and women out of it.

Have to agree that without those young men and women going out to protect our country it may not be the place it is today, now not that it is perfect but i feel safer here than i would in most other countries. So i commend the men and women of all forces who risk their lives do there best for our country.