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12:15 am Thursday, 29th August, 2013

Has anybody ever been on a meet and really not known how well it has gone?

I have recently had the pleasure of meeting with a new friend off the hub and lets just say I totally misread the situation. We met for lunch.. A gorgeous man. Very intelligent, kind, caring genuinely interested in talking to me so far so good.. Although the whole time I am sitting there wondering what it is this man wants. Yes there were smiles.. I can remember blushing a few times but this was different to past meets I had been on.. No obvious mention of sex... We skirted round the subject but didnt really dwell on it. I got home and was confused I had had a lovely afternoon with a lovely man but seriously didnt know what direction things would go in. I even found myself messaging him asking him if and where he felt I would fit in in his life.. A strange question I know but it needed to be asked I was extremely confused and needed to know if this was something I wanted to get into. He replied with he had no expectations and as long as I was happy he was happy. So we organized a meet at his place dinner and a movie.. Unsure of how to dress as was adamant this was not going to be a sexual meet at all.. Not that I didn't want it to be just from the vibes I had got from our messages and our meet. We ordered pizza we chatted and well things developed quite quickly into a very sexual matter :) I told him how I didn't think he had looked at me in that way and he promptly informed me otherwise. Just shows that that the signs aren't always obvious but me going along not expecting anything made the situation that much more enjoyable to the extent that 13 hours later we just had to meet again to have a replay to make sure I hadn't been dreaming!!



Comments
9:02 am Thursday, 29th August, 2013

Lucky you!

Personally, I often have a hard time reading people, so chat is a good way for me to be honest and upfront with people before and after meeting (assuming that they are as honest as I am). I've learned to be pretty direct in person if I'm interested, for the most part, if I'm unsure. Simply because I have to be. I'm sure I've scared off my share.

My confusion mostly comes about when he says he's interested but then doesn't follow through.

9:42 am Thursday, 29th August, 2013

Sometime soon I'm going to have to get myself out there and join the world of singletons. Problem is, I'd much rather deal with men in the world of business where they are often very skilled at communicating their intentions. In the boardroom I can read their body language pretty well in order to manipulate them into doing what I want. ;-)

Not sure I'm looking forward to having to doing this for sex or not tee hee hee.

11:07 am Thursday, 29th August, 2013

Olivers.....it's before sex, that I have trouble with figuring out what some they want. If it's a matter of wanting different things, that's USUALLY clear BEFORE we meet, so I don't. But not always.

Yes, I want more than just sex, but that "more" is rather indefinable. So for now I stick with wanting good friends. And it seems to be working.

11:11 am Thursday, 29th August, 2013

Olivers, not sure I go for league players of any level. Too competitive and get far too excited when they see balls ;-)

2:03 pm Thursday, 29th August, 2013

Great expectations ?
With completely unexpected an amazing results I would say :)

Has anybody ever been on a meet and really not known how well it has gone?

Funny I was thinking the exact same thing ;)

I have recently had the pleasure of meeting with a new friend off the hub and lets just say I totally misread the situation.

It was seriously my pleasure, you are a very beautiful and intelligent woman.

We met for lunch..

I am generally bad at first meetsdates... too many nerves, too many unknowns and I was slightly cold so a little shivery. Once the initial greetings had passed my nerves calmed and I realised this woman in front of me required my complete attention... why wouldn't I want to 'talk' to her?

Her striking eyes, shielded at first almost afraid to lock, then me feeling the same once they had... it was my first meeting of any kind with anyone over the internet and more importantly the first meeting with a woman other than my last partnerwife of 12 years.
I was unsure if I should have even be there.. was I ready to put myself out there again after all these years. Did I even want to go through the whole meet and greet with anyone after the pain of my marriage breakdown.
I shut the negative self-doubt thoughts out as much as I could, took in the warmth of the sun and listened to the words coming out of this goddess in front of me…
She seems amazing, independent, confident, determined and most importantly... sitting directly in front of me! LISTEN YOU FOOL! I say to myself don't self-doubt!

Although the whole time I am sitting there wondering what it is this man wants.

I honestly didn't know myself, I just wanted to connect with someone and you shook me out of my state of complacency!


Yes there were smiles.
Yes… Beautiful ones ;)

I can remember blushing a few times but this was different to past meets I had been on.. No obvious mention of sex... We skirted round the subject but didnt really dwell on it.

I guess I am a little old fashioned and it felt a little awkward bringing it up, flirting through messages is one thing, flirting in person is a completely different experience. Also being in public and the middle of the day I didn't think it was appropriate to just bring it into conversation.

I got home and was confused I had had a lovely afternoon with a lovely man but seriously didnt know what direction things would go in. I even found myself messaging him asking him if and where he felt I would fit in in his life.. A strange question I know but it needed to be asked I was extremely confused and needed to know if this was something I wanted to get into. He replied with he had no expectations and as long as I was happy he was happy.


After my wife left me I honestly thought I would never try attempt to connect with anyone again. Once I realised I was ready to at least try to, I didn't want to waste my time and energy on just anyone.
I also wasn't looking really for anything more than possibly a casual sexual connection with someone and didn't want to 'break any hearts' by haphazardly looking for one. Then I stumbled across Destiny… and it truly was that…. Destiny :)
Here was someone exactly where I was over a year ago, here is someone who knows what it feels like to feel alone when you are next to your partner and that yearning that builds inside, that longing to be held, to be touched, to be kissed, to be asked, to be thanked, to just be acknowledged or appreciated for being you, not every other thing that doesn't matter.
I missed out on it in my marriage and have yearned for so long I ended up going numb. I couldn't handle the thought of anyone else going through the same hell and thought … I need to make this woman feel like the woman she deserves to feel like, she needs to be happy…. I could that!


So we organized a meet at his place dinner and a movie.. Unsure of how to dress as was adamant this was not going to be a sexual meet at all.. Not that I didn't want it to be just from the vibes I had got from our messages and our meet.

I was unsure too, this is the pain of the first interactions and why I was initially afraid of starting the process again. I am also very shy and have misread signs before so really didn't want to start anything if it wasn't timeright etc...

We ordered pizza we chatted and well things developed quite quickly into a very sexual matter :)

I'm so happy I grew a pair and made the proposition that I did because well I wouldn't be here right now, talking about it :)

I told him how I didn't think he had looked at me in that way and he promptly informed me otherwise. Just shows that that the signs aren't always obvious but me going along not expecting anything made the situation that much more enjoyable to the extent that 13 hours later we just had to meet again to have a replay to make sure I hadn't been dreaming!!

I feel sleazy being obvious and quite awkward so I guess I opt to be subtle which often gets overlooked… Mmm, catch 22 that one ;)

My time I have spent with you has been … amazing!
Thank you for tempting me back out of my cave :)

2:03 pm Thursday, 29th August, 2013

Great expectations ?
With completely unexpected an amazing results I would say :)

Has anybody ever been on a meet and really not known how well it has gone?

Funny I was thinking the exact same thing ;)

I have recently had the pleasure of meeting with a new friend off the hub and lets just say I totally misread the situation.

It was seriously my pleasure, you are a very beautiful and intelligent woman.

We met for lunch..

I am generally bad at first meetsdates... too many nerves, too many unknowns and I was slightly cold so a little shivery. Once the initial greetings had passed my nerves calmed and I realised this woman in front of me required my complete attention... why wouldn't I want to 'talk' to her?

Her striking eyes, shielded at first almost afraid to lock, then me feeling the same once they had... it was my first meeting of any kind with anyone over the internet and more importantly the first meeting with a woman other than my last partnerwife of 12 years.
I was unsure if I should have even be there.. was I ready to put myself out there again after all these years. Did I even want to go through the whole meet and greet with anyone after the pain of my marriage breakdown.
I shut the negative self-doubt thoughts out as much as I could, took in the warmth of the sun and listened to the words coming out of this goddess in front of me…
She seems amazing, independent, confident, determined and most importantly... sitting directly in front of me! LISTEN YOU FOOL! I say to myself don't self-doubt!

Although the whole time I am sitting there wondering what it is this man wants.

I honestly didn't know myself, I just wanted to connect with someone and you shook me out of my state of complacency!


Yes there were smiles.
Yes… Beautiful ones ;)

I can remember blushing a few times but this was different to past meets I had been on.. No obvious mention of sex... We skirted round the subject but didnt really dwell on it.

I guess I am a little old fashioned and it felt a little awkward bringing it up, flirting through messages is one thing, flirting in person is a completely different experience. Also being in public and the middle of the day I didn't think it was appropriate to just bring it into conversation.

I got home and was confused I had had a lovely afternoon with a lovely man but seriously didnt know what direction things would go in. I even found myself messaging him asking him if and where he felt I would fit in in his life.. A strange question I know but it needed to be asked I was extremely confused and needed to know if this was something I wanted to get into. He replied with he had no expectations and as long as I was happy he was happy.


After my wife left me I honestly thought I would never try attempt to connect with anyone again. Once I realised I was ready to at least try to, I didn't want to waste my time and energy on just anyone.
I also wasn't looking really for anything more than possibly a casual sexual connection with someone and didn't want to 'break any hearts' by haphazardly looking for one. Then I stumbled across Destiny… and it truly was that…. Destiny :)
Here was someone exactly where I was over a year ago, here is someone who knows what it feels like to feel alone when you are next to your partner and that yearning that builds inside, that longing to be held, to be touched, to be kissed, to be asked, to be thanked, to just be acknowledged or appreciated for being you, not every other thing that doesn't matter.
I missed out on it in my marriage and have yearned for so long I ended up going numb. I couldn't handle the thought of anyone else going through the same hell and thought … I need to make this woman feel like the woman she deserves to feel like, she needs to be happy…. I could that!


So we organized a meet at his place dinner and a movie.. Unsure of how to dress as was adamant this was not going to be a sexual meet at all.. Not that I didn't want it to be just from the vibes I had got from our messages and our meet.

I was unsure too, this is the pain of the first interactions and why I was initially afraid of starting the process again. I am also very shy and have misread signs before so really didn't want to start anything if it wasn't timeright etc...

We ordered pizza we chatted and well things developed quite quickly into a very sexual matter :)

I'm so happy I grew a pair and made the proposition that I did because well I wouldn't be here right now, talking about it :)

I told him how I didn't think he had looked at me in that way and he promptly informed me otherwise. Just shows that that the signs aren't always obvious but me going along not expecting anything made the situation that much more enjoyable to the extent that 13 hours later we just had to meet again to have a replay to make sure I hadn't been dreaming!!

I feel sleazy being obvious and quite awkward so I guess I opt to be subtle which often gets overlooked… Mmm, catch 22 that one ;)

My time I have spent with you has been … amazing!
Thank you for tempting me back out of my cave :)

5:48 pm Thursday, 29th August, 2013

Mynamegoeshere - RESPECT! Did you type that on your mobile phone?

10:34 pm Thursday, 29th August, 2013

I think so too :)

10:37 pm Thursday, 29th August, 2013

Luv2sucU - thanks :) but in all honesty Destiny is the one that requires the respect!
I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for her, she is an amazing woman :)

11:30 pm Thursday, 29th August, 2013

girldownunder - well as they say, it takes two to tango and tango we did but next time Destiny is taking the lead, I do have two left feet ;)

12:25 am Friday, 30th August, 2013

Great blog as alwaysx A very lucky gent indeed to play it so cool as to almost miss an opportunityx Always takes a moments courage to get passed that awkward silent moment before a good bye to a hot time being had:)

3:52 am Friday, 30th August, 2013

Destiny - I am at your disposal, feel free to dance all over me :)

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